How Bright is Your Light Shining? My Top 5 Tips to Making Your Light Shine Brighter

We all know that one person that as soon as they walk into a room, your mood instantly changes and you ask yourself, ‘why are they here?’ We also know that one person that as soon as they walk into a room, everyone is so happy that he/she is there. Which one are you? Are you grumpy and always complaining that you make people not want to be around you?  Are you aware that you are emotionally draining your friends and family whether in person or over the phone?

Here are 5 key things that you can pay attention to, to ensure that you are NOT the person that everyone is avoiding:

 1.)    Do everything without complaining

We all complain, that’s just a fact! BUT there’s complaining about something and there’s complaining ALL the time. If every time you are with your friends, you are always complaining about something, you are draining them emotionally. They may not say it to you, but you are.

 Philippians 2: 14 - “Do everything without complaining and arguing.”

2.)    Don’t talk about yourself ALL the time

A few years ago, I used to rent a place from someone that talked all the time. I’m not even exaggerating but she could talk for hours straight (if she’s reading this post: I love you LOL). Anyways, after months of living together, she paused one day and said, “Hey, how come I don’t know anything about your friends or family?” I simply replied, “It’s because you never asked!”

Don’t be the person that talks about themselves all the time. Ask people about their lives, their family, their job. Find out how they are REALLY doing.

Philippians 2:4 – “Don’t look out only for your own interests, but take an interest in others, too.”

3.)    Treat people with respect irrespective of their age, occupation, background, etc.

 When I was doing my master’s program in London, I did some part time admin work at a Law Firm. There was this guy from West Africa that worked as a janitor at the same place. I noticed how almost everyone barely talked to him; they wouldn’t even say hi to him. If you know me, you know I talk to everyone. I started saying hi to him, he didn’t speak very good English, but he told me about his family back home, his dreams and aspirations, and how he was doing this job to save money to go to school for engineering.

Luke 6:31 - “Do to others as you would have them do to you.”

 In the same place, the lawyers never paid any attention to ‘us’, the support staff. One day, I was talking to my co-worker about flying back to New York for Christmas and this very unfriendly lawyer happened to be eavesdropping. Instantly, she was curious. She asked if that’s where I lived and what I was doing in London; I told her yes, and that I was doing my master’s program. Then she said ‘oh, so you are just doing this part time?’ and I said ‘yes’. That was the only time she took interest in talking to me, then she started saying hi to me every time she’d see me because then she was no longer judging me based on my job but she was being nice to me because of my educational background and where I lived. Don’t be that person!

4.)    Be Kind

They always say kindness is contagious. When I’m driving and someone let’s me join a lane, I’m always inclined to do it to someone else. Being kind is all about being nice to people, whether they are nice back to you or not. Most times, when people are mean, it’s nothing against you. They are just fighting personal demons that you may not even be aware of.

Proverbs 11:17 - “Those who are kind benefit themselves, but the cruel bring ruin on themselves.”

5.)    Let your light shine bright

 I firmly believe that if you do these things, you will be the person that everyone is happy to be around. You will make the room a little brighter every time you walk in.

Matthew 5:14-16 - “You are the light of the world. A town built on a hill cannot be hidden. Neither do people light a lamp and put it under a bowl. Instead they put it on its stand, and it gives light to everyone in the house. In the same way, let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven.”

About My Look:

This dress is from Fashion Nova – it’s literally my new favorite store when it comes to buying affordable occasional outfits. I wore this dress to a wedding back in May.  The dress is simple but the huge ruffle sleeves make a statement piece.My shoes are from DSW and my gorgeous bag is a gift from my lovely sister-in-law that sent it all the way from Australia :-).

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